Some very disturbing reports were released last week about the number of children under 12 who are addicted to sex and actually engaging in sex. I’m sure you saw the story about the first grade girl who propositioned other first grade girls for a sex act in the elementary school bathroom. It seems that children, even children as young as five, are being exposed to sex in ways previously unheard of. And the most common way for children to become exposed to sex and sex acts is the Internet.
The Internet is the “Internet of everything” that you can possibly imagine. Curiosity about sex is no longer a simple question about “boy and girl” anatomy parts. This is literally child’s play for today’s kids because with a few Internet searches kids can see things that would make adults blush. And this is what is happening, day in and day out with children and the Internet. When children are left alone in their rooms, or gather among themselves with assorted electronic devices, it should not come as a surprise to anyone that children are watching “raw sex” of every sort imaginable. And it is not long before being a “watcher” becomes so enticing that these children want to try stuff—even on a dare.
One woman came out of the shadows about her addiction to pornography. She started watching sex on the Internet at age 11. Her curiosity turned to active participation then she became involved in making pornographic videos. She said that she started out watching a couple hours a day of online sex, which began to consume more and more of her time to the point of addiction. It took years for her to extract herself from a descent into sexual depravity.
I’m often bothered by male potency commercials such as Viagra. If a family is watching a movie or sports and a Viagra commercial comes on, what are parents to do with small children watching? I’m sure you’ve seen the Progressive Insurance commercial about the very sexualized “home and auto bundle” where the mother puts her hands over her son’s ears. Flo, the commercial actor, then says, “Better to hear it here than on the streets.” Well, the “Internet of everything” has become the modern-day “on the streets.” Kids don’t have to go down the block to “Bad Suzie” or “Rough Roy’s” house to learn how to do “nasty stuff.” They can go to their rooms and watch “nasty stuff” all day on their I Phones.
Part of the problem is the rush to “sexualize” children. I’ve seen small children dressed so provocative that you wonder what mother would dress her daughter to look like a hooker. I’ve also seen mothers actually encourage provocative sexual behavior by allowing and encouraging their children to “drop it likes it hot,” and “git it girl” type sexual movements. A lot of this is the normalizing of “raw sex” and simulated fornication going on in music video and live music performances. Children now see “hip/crouch thrusting” all day long. We grew up feeling that any type of “hip thrusting” was low classed and nasty—such as doing “The Dog” dance. Children now do “The Dog” dance marching down the street in parades while onlookers clap and cheer. Among the folks clapping and cheering is a nation of pedophiles, adults who actively seek out sex with children. How can any sort of decent boundaries be set for children in a world where no one is to be judged for any type of behavior? How much further can the envelope be pushed on open sexuality in America? What is left besides walking around nude, holding the U. S. Constitution, claiming freedom of expression? Is there any reason to protect children from “raw sex” in today’s “let it all hang out” visual world?” How are children to be taught to manage sexual urgings in a world of Internet porn? And what happens when children under 12, and often under 8, engage in “child’s play” sex with one another—doing “nasty stuff” they see on the Internet? When a child asks, “Mommie, what is Viagra?” how should the mother respond?”
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